I also (in addition to dev mid-life crisis podcast) really want, like, some chat or telegram or Discord group that's polite, friendly, supportive, no-shitposting, dad- (and mom-) jokes allowed/encouraged, creative, fun, geeky-but-tech-agnostic, worldly-wise.
Curmudgeonly-grumping allowed. But where even I get told off if it gets personal or unwelcoming.
I kinda have this, but it never quite works out as I'd hoped. I think my standards are too high.